An Open Letter To Enneagram Sixes


Dear Six,


Thanks for taking the time to read my letter. I know you already have a ton on your mind, so the fact that you would make a little space for some words from me...I don’t take that for granted.


I promise, I’m not trying to flatter you with this: I think you are amazing. Being a six comes with some challenges that I don’t believe most other people fully understand. I know that your mind is always on, always spinning at a million miles per hour, asking questions and searching for safety and people and truths you can trust. One of the most incredible things to me is how you are so hyper-sensitive towards others. It’s like you have a sixth sense of what might be true, and you can use that superpower to protect the ones you love.


I know the rest of us can give you a hard time about some of the places your mind goes. Sorry about that. It’s really that we don’t understand. Our minds just aren’t wired to always be looking out for the group like you. And as much as we might not understand it, at the end of the day we really appreciate it. The unfortunate part of it all is that as long as everything goes well, we may never truly appreciate the thoughtfulness and preparation you have in place. Even though I would never wish for it, I know that if the worst happens, you’ll be ready and we will all be incredibly grateful for you.


So instead of waiting for the worst, I thought it might be best to just tell you here: thank you for being you. Thank you for being prepared on our behalf.


Let me encourage you with one other thing, if I may. (Don’t worry, I’m not here to fix you.) All I want you to know is that you are far more capable than you realize. Your greatest flaw is that you so easily forget how capable you are! I know anxiety is usually following you around like a shadow, and I am not here to judge or give you 3 easy steps to fix it...I just want to remind you of the fact that in your entire life, right up until this moment, your anxiety, and all the things that help create it, have never conquered you. Sure, they have been tough on you more times than you can count, and they have knocked you down and beat you up a bit here and there. But overall, and through all, you are still here. You a resilient. You are brave, even though I’m sure it doesn’t feel that way.


So next time you are doing battle with your anxiety, maybe try to stop, take a few deep breaths, and remember that fact: you are still here. This anxious world has never conquered you, and this won’t be any different.


Thank you for looking out for the rest of us. Whatever it is that you are facing right now, you’ve got this.